Fathers are important. Children whose father spend time with them are more likely to be successful adults.
Fathers do matter, and fathers come in all kinds of shapes, sizes and relationships. Not all children have a father who is an active presence in their lives. Fathers die, go to prison, are stationed overseas, and might be absent from their children’s lives for a host of other reasons.
Fatherhood is not just about biology. Male roles models are important for children -- whether they be biological, adoptive or step fathers or whether they be relatives, neighbors, teachers, coaches, doctors, dentists, preachers, policemen, and other males. Children are very observant and they are watching the men who they come into contact with at home and in the community. If you are a male, children are watching you.
The following list from the First Five LA website is not just for biological fathers, and it includes tips for other male role models in a childn's life.
What Dads Can Do
1. Respect your children's mother. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.
2. Spend time with your children. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. Set aside time to spend with your children.
3. Earn the right to be heard. Begin talking with your kids when they are very young, and talk to them about all kinds of things. Listen to their ideas and problems.
4. Discipline with love. All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits and help children learn from natural or logical consequences. Fathers who discipline in a calm, fair and nonviolent manner show their love.
5. Be a role model. Fathers are role models whether they realize it or not. A girl with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility.
6. Be a teacher. A father who teaches his children about right and wrong and encourages them to do their best will see his children make good choices. Involved fathers use everyday examples to teach the basic lessons of life.
7. Eat together as a family. Sharing a meal together can be an important part of healthy family life. It gives children the chance to talk about what they are doing and it is a good time for fathers to listen and give advice. 8. Read to your children. Begin reading to your children when they are very young. Instilling a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they will have a lifetime of personal and career growth.
9. Show affection. Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Showing affection every day is the best way to let your children know that you love them.
10. Realize that a father's job is never done. Even after children are grown and leave home, they will still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Fatherhood lasts a lifetime.
• A Father Matters: http://readysetgrowla.org/Dads/index.html
• How to Be a Good Father: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Father
• Promoting Responsible Fatherhood: http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/
• Ten Ways to be a Better Dad: http://www.first5la.org/articles/ten-ways-to-be-a-better-dad