This song title has a little more meaning after recent events in my life.
While many might remember the song without the words as the theme song to ‘M*A*S*H.’ If you have access to the internet, which I know sounds strange, but there are many that still do not give the song a listen on YouTube or watch the scene from the 1970 movie staring Donald Sutherland. Elliot Gould and Tom Skerritt, which the show is based off.
Anyways, I came back from the Clearwater Volleyball Invitational Saturday and as I checked my Facebook account I stumbled on friends stating farewell to a friend. After some investigation I found out that someone I went to high school with and spent some time with in June at my high school reunion killed himself.
While I don’t know the circumstances behind what made him think that was the only answer to his problems, this was the fifth or sixth time someone I knew decided to do this this year.
Two weeks earlier, I lost a man that I deployed to Iraq with. His circumstances are not completely known, but by how his death notice was phrased, tragic accident at home, one can only assume it was self inflicted.
While the rumors of the songs origins are somewhat funny, the thought behind the title is way off.
We, the survivors, of a person who commits suicide feel pain and sorrow for some time following the act. We question what we could have done differently to help our friend or family member.
We are curious if there is more that we could have said or done to prevent it from getting to that point where suicide is the only option.
I have vowed to my friends that they can contact me, day-or-night and talk about their issues. Saturday was the day that I decided that no more hurt was going to happen.
I threatened to kill myself in my youth. I thought I was in love with a girl at school. When we broke up I wrote her a goodbye letter. That letter was quickly given to my counselor, who immediately called my parent. They took me to speak with someone to figure if the thought was sincere or, as it was meant to be, an idle threat.
I ask now that if you know of someone suffering through a tough bout of depression and they say they are thinking about suicide, listen to them and get them help. Statistically, most suicidal people don’t leave an actual note of warning. They have subtle hints they leave. Regardless help them out.
If you are thinking about harming yourself, speak out. No one can help if you don’t say anything. Suicide is not painless, it leaves everyone of your friends and family suffering to fill the gap that you left behind.
Today is the day we end the vicious cycle of suicide. Today is the day we step up and save a life.
If you need to talk and no one is available, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline — 1-800-273-8255 someone is there 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year to talk to you.
— Will Ravenstein
Wellington Daily News