There’s a song by Tim McGraw that caught my attention the other day. Not sure how many times I’d heard it, but this time it touched me.

The chorus says “Hold the door, say please, say thank you. Don't steal, don't cheat, and don't lie. I know you got mountains to climb, but always stay humble and kind. When the dreams you're dreaming come to you, when the work you put in is realized, let yourself feel the pride, but always stay humble and kind.”

We don’t use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ enough today.

I know a young man who works very hard as a farrier. He always says “Yes, ma’am” to me. One day, in his wonderful country accent, he told me his mother was from Texas and having manners was not an option, it was expected. I sure enjoy visiting with him because I know he has been taught ‘humble and kind’ values. I had the opportunity to witness his parenting to his daughter, and I am sure she is also being taught to be humble and kind.

“Don't steal, don’t cheat and don’t lie.” These values are in God’s word. Romans 13:9 reiterates these commandments from the Old Testament: “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not bear false witness,” “You shall not covet.” It goes on to say “and if there is any other commandment, all are summed up in this saying, namely, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

“I know you got mountains to climb.” Don’t we all? If we allow the mountains to defeat us, frustrate us, or tarnish our ability to be giving, our humility and kindness also takes a hit. Allow the mountains to be nothing more than a challenge, a problem to be solved and an opportunity to grow in humility and kindness.

I love the inspiration: “When the dreams you're dreaming come to you, when the work you put in is realized.”

Those words reflect the value of reward for hard work. “Let yourself feel the pride.” Yes, it is good to feel proud of yourself for a job well done, and to bask in accomplishment. “But always stay humble and kind.”

The song’s second verse says “Don’t expect a free ride from no one. Don’t hold a grudge or a chip and here’s why: Bitterness keeps you from flying. Always stay humble and kind.”

What type of attitude is it if you expect a free ride or carry a chip? Entitled? Manipulative? Boastful? Are you loving your neighbor as yourself if you are looking to take advantage of someone, or looking to be better than someone else?

Holding a grudge, and carrying a chip on your shoulder will weight you down. The bitterness keeps you from happiness, success, and freedom – “flying.” Practice forgiveness. Be humble in your successes. Shine your light in humility and kindness.

Romans 12:16 says “Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.”

Yes. Always be humble and kind.

— Linda Yearout, Licensed Clinical Marriage & Family Therapist, Hopes Place, Wichita